Natasha Lunn

When I asked psychiatrist Dr Megan Poe why people lose their sense of self in relationships, she said it’s sometimes because they’re trying to ‘echo-locate the other and not reveal the self’ and merge with them.

Our story existed in ambiguity, and in all the things we would never say.

How many of us have these stories of adolescent infatuation, in which longing is more important than knowing, and fantasy trumps reality? This kind of young love is often
constructed with beautiful intensity, which is understandable in your teenage years, when you are rich in time and ruled by hormones. Maybe such fixation is even a form of creativity – how a youthful imagination can take the scant details of an ordinary connection and build another world inside it.