Gary Chapman

e just grew further apart

Books abound on the subject

No matter how hard you try to express love in English, if your spouse understands only Chinese, you will never understand how to love each other.

But a few months after marriage, she started complaining, about petty things at first—like my not taking the garbage out or not hanging up my clothes.

The problem is that we have overlooked one fundamental truth: People speak different love languages.

Most of the jokes and pithy sayings contain some truth, but they are like offering an aspirin to a person with cancer.

Most of us grow up learning the language of our parents and siblings, which becomes our primary or native tongue. Later we may learn additional languages—but usually with much more effort. These become our secondary languages.

Inside every child is an ‘emotional tank’ waiting to be filled with love. When a child really feels loved, he will develop normally, but when the love tank is empty, the child will misbehave. Much of the misbehavior of children is motivated by the cravings of an empty ‘love tank.

She is not a wife who hates sex; she is a wife desperately pleading for emotional love.

Isolation is devastating to the human psyche.