Allison Raskin

In healthy relationships it’s not that there’s no conflict or struggle; it’s more that there’s a sense of learning how to recover from conflict and growing closer to each other as you navigate struggles.”

One of the big shifts that occurred in my last relationship was deciding to never view my partner as my adversary. Instead, I was determined to always be on the same team

I find it exciting and encouraging that all of these small, day-to-day changes in our thoughts can influence larger changes in our personal schemas. Think of schemas as the lenses through which we view the world. If my personal schema says I’m unlovable or unworthy of happiness, I will see everyone’s behavior through that lens. It won’t matter if someone actually does love me because my brain won’t allow me to process their affection correctly. That’s why self-awareness is so important. It enables you to properly identify any schemas that aren’t serving you