KC Davis

Now my space is serving me and not the other way around.

When barriers to functioning make completing care tasks difficult, a person can experience an immense amount of shame

with the view of care tasks as morally neutral, rejecting shame and perfectionism, you can begin to explore ways of caring for your body and space that best serve you

When you view care tasks as moral, not being good at them means you are failing, you’re unsuccessful, you’re not a valid adult, and you are a bad partner or parent.

You deserve kindness and love regardless of how good you are at care tasks

Now imagine what we could do if we were kind to ourselves?

meaning assigned to a care task was probably given to you by someone else. Take a moment to think about who it may have been.

What messages were you given about domestic care tasks and the meaning behind them?

you feel good when your home is clean and laundry is folded? Ask yourself why.

Please do not bully yourself into doing care tasks. Shame is a horrible long-term motivator.