Kissing Tolstoy

What’s wrong with being vulnerable? With trusting another person to see who you are and love you for it.”

didn’t say that. I merely argue that this post-modern individualism is harmful, that we—Western society—have become lazy in our dependencies and relationships. To say, ‘Don’t attempt to love another until you know what it is to love yourself,’ is imbecilic. We, humans, must be loved first to know how to love in return. This is why we are given families, ideally parents, who will love us, teach us that we are worthwhile, worthy of love and respect, provide a mirror, a reflection of our worth. We must know what love is, what it looks like, in order to give it to another.”

If we are not taught how to love, or that we should, then how can we love ourselves? It would be like expecting an infant to fry an egg.”