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Sue Johnson

Hold Me Tight: Seven Conversations for a Lifetime of Love

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  • Ali Abidhar citeretfor 3 måneder siden
    When marriages fail, it is not increasing conflict that is the cause. It is decreasing affection and emotional responsiveness, according to a landmark study by Ted Huston of the University of Texas. Indeed, the lack of emotional responsiveness rather than the level of conflict is the best predictor of how solid a marriage will be five years into it. The demise of marriages begins with a growing absence of responsive intimate interactions. The conflict comes later.
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    Or does he still feel insecure?
  • Ali Abidhar citeretfor 3 måneder siden
    A third key moment is when we do manage to tune in to our attachment emotions and reach for connection or reassurance and the loved one responds.
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    Partners have the chance to reconnect then, unless their negative coping strategies kick in.
  • Ali Abidhar citeretfor 3 måneder siden
    If we are feeling basically safe and connected to our partner, this key moment is just like a brief cool breeze on a sunny day. If we are not so sure of our connection, it starts a negative spiral of insecurity that chills the relationship.
  • Ali Abidhar citeretfor 3 måneder siden
    The demand-withdraw pattern is not just a bad habit, it reflects a deeper underlying reality: such couples are starving emotionally. They are losing the source of their emotional sustenance. They feel deprived. And they are desperate to regain that nurturance.
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    Even if they want to come close, they can’t.
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    They will listen to idle words and hear a threat.
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    They will see every difference, every disagreement, through a negative filter.
  • Ali Abidhar citeretfor 3 måneder siden
    They’re caught in a terrible loop, their responses generating more negative responses and emotions in each other. The more Carol blames Jim, the more he withdraws. And the more he withdraws, the more frantic and cutting become her attacks.
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