People call them doormats, pushovers, or people-pleasers, but whatever they’re called, they all seem to have the same playbook: be nice, be helpful, be kind, and no matter what you do, never ever say no
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You agree to unreasonable demands to keep the peace . . . but then grow resentful about it anyway
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Try the “separation of tasks” exercise above and consciously choose to let go of things that are not your responsibility and not under your control.
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Be your own mother (give yourself unconditional compassion and love) and your own father (protect yourself with solid boundaries—and defend them!)
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Stop explaining yourself or justifying your choices. You don’t owe that to people
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They also needed to put their authentic selves and their feelings on the back burner
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“It’s up to them to decide if they like me or not.”
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Remind yourself that neutral is not negative.
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people are living their own lives, which has nothing to do with you!
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I like you,” it’s not all that different from them saying “I prefer strawberry ice cream to chocolate.”