What to Say When You Talk to Your Self

You are everything that is,

Your thoughts, your life, your dreams come true.

You are everything you choose to be.

You are as unlimited as the endless universe.

As I said, when you first begin to talk out loud to yourself, you might feel a little strange or foolish. I know I did. But in a day or two, the benefits will outweigh the minor embarrassment it might have taken to get started. In a short while, you will find yourself talking to yourself in the car, while you are alone in the office, while you’re on a walk—anywhere at all.

There is, however, a less conspicuous and safer way to use self-conversation, and it is a way I recommend you try at your next available opportunity. I refer to it as shower talk, and it works like this: Tomorrow morning, when you step into the shower, say “Good morning!” to yourself. Say it out loud, and say it with a smile in your voice. Greet the day with your chin up, your attitude high, and tell yourself just how great the day ahead is going to be. “You look great today! You feel good, you’re in good shape, and you’re ready to tackle anything!”

And then respond––give yourself an answer back. “I feel terrific! Today especially! I feel good, I like who I am and I’m glad to be alive and going for it!”

The easiest way to determine which of the people around you are the real winners at life and which are not, is to listen to their self-speak––what they say when they talk about anything. Winners use self-speak to build an attitude that produces winning results. It doesn’t mean that winners don’t have problems. It doesn’t mean that every day for them is a perfect day. But look at their average scores in winning at life, over a few months or a few years. The better their self-speak, the better their score. The more positive their approach, the more successful the results. In time, positive self-speak becomes as much an automatic habit as walking, moving, eating, or sleeping. And when positive self-speak becomes a habit, so do the successes which the self-speak creates.

Instead of telling yourself that you’re tired––at a time of the day when you can’t afford to be tired––immediately tell yourself that you have plenty of energy and enthusiasm. And if it doesn’t suddenly make you jump up and down with energy, that’s okay; you’re working on a whole new way to talk to yourself, and you are starting to give your subconscious mind a new set of directions. Just keep doing it every chance you get, and it will start to work for you. How we “feel”––tired or energetic, listless or enthusiastic—is mental and chemical; it is physiological.

As you get started, during each day, listen to everything you say when you talk to yourself. Make a mental note of anything you think or say to yourself that sounds like the wrong kind of self-talk, and immediately turn it around and rephrase it in the positive. “I just can’t seem to get organized today” immediately becomes “I am organized and in control, today especially!” When you hear yourself say something like “I’ve really got a problem with this …” turn it around and say “I can handle this! I’m a capable person and I handle problems well.” “I just can’t seem to lose weight” becomes “Losing weight is never a problem for me. I eat exactly what I should and only the right healthy amount—I’m losing weight and looking great!”

Since most of those things we call problems are really only perceived as problems, the way you look at each of them determines whether they really are or not; you need only tell yourself to see them in a better way. I

Instead of waking up in the morning and telling yourself you wish you didn’t have to get out of bed, your new self-talk should tell you that it’s a great day to be alive—and it’s time to get at it.

For any personal growth concept to be successful, it has to be simple. It has to be easy to use. It has to be easy to put into practice. And it has to work.

Even reading the simplest examples of this special, powerful, reprogramming Level 4 self-talk makes you want to go for it: “I am a winner! I believe in myself. I respect myself and I like who I am. I have made the decision to win in my life, and that’s what I’m doing!”