Ramani Durvasula

This carries a tremendous toll for the giver, who will often give of themselves to the point of exhaustion, physical health problems, loss of friends and family, and even their own sense of self. Many will recall turning into someone who they no longer recognize in order to cater to the endless needs of their partner—on a grail quest to feel like they are “enough.”

you learn you can’t change or avoid something, you put up with it, even when the time comes that you can get away from it.

Learned helplessness can place a person at risk for apathy and depression and the belief that nothing she does will ever make things better.