John Gottman

During the first 2 weeks of the menstrual cycle (when estrogen is peaking), women are friendlier, more talkative, more socially relaxed, calmer, and more emotionally sensitive. During the second 2 weeks of the menstrual cycle (when progesterone is peaking), women can be more irritable, more stressed, and less calm, plus they want to be alone more. They can also be more focused on their interior worlds and more creative. This is a general guideline and varies from woman to woman; it also changes as a woman gets older and goes through perimenopause and menopause.

A Hero lets a woman know through small comments just how great she looks in that color dress or how amazing her shoulder looks with the light hitting it just that way. Heroes tell a woman how beautiful her face looks in the moonlight and how gorgeous her smile is. A Hero will tell a woman how stunning she looks nursing the baby or how pretty she is first thing in the morning, with sleep still in her eyes and a face free of makeup. A Hero tells a woman how wonderful it feels to make love to her and shows her just how much he loves every part of her.

researchers discovered that people who had great love relationships kissed one another passionately on a regular basis. They
also
touched one another more often in nonerotic ways, cuddled more often, paid one another more compliments, talked more often, gave one another surprise gifts, and so on, than people who had unhappy love relationships. They stayed good friends. This reinforces our theory that everything positive you do for her is actually foreplay.2

A Hero tries to find out where it hurts, and he does so by asking one or more of the following three important questions:

1.What do you need?

2.What are you concerned about?

3.What are you feeling?

A Hero tries to find out where it hurts, and he does so by asking one or more of the following three important questions:

1.What do you need?

2.What are you concerned about?

3.What are you feeling?

Remember the number one trait she is looking for is trustworthiness.

Investing in the nonconflict time is like money in the bank. It will make times of conflict go a lot smoother and happen less frequently.

Women get angry because of powerlessness, injustice, or the irresponsibility of others.

famous female psychologists, Elizabeth Loftus

famous female psychologists, Elizabeth Loftus