Patrick King

“actions speak louder than words”

Projection is a defense mechanism that can cause considerable damage and chaos if not understood for what it is. In this case, we place unwanted and unclaimed feelings onto someone or something else rather than seeing that they are a part of ourselves. We do not recognize our own “dark side” and project it onto others, blaming them for our shortcomings or seeing our flaws in their actions.

Recognizing people's "inner child" is another way to understand their deepest motives.

denial and rationalization.

Even the least emotionally and socially intelligent people can learn something about other people if they engage with them long enough.

The deepest craving in every human being is the desire to be appreciated.”

Human beings only act when that action is perceived as meaningful, relevant, correct or beneficial in some way.

you can’t force motivation any more than you can force love or interest or care. It has to be genuine.

Most activities, when you think about it, are a blend of both intrinsic and extrinsic motivators—we may act because of our deeply held values and principles, but these themselves may have been heavily impressed on us by our history and our particular environment.

Any manager dealing with an uninspired and apathetic workforce knows this—you can’t force motivation any more than you can force love or interest or care. It has to be genuine.