James W. Williams

To be a better conversationalist, you should watch out for hand gestures, eye contact, and facial expressions, and learn to divulge their meanings.

n a scale of 0 – 10, how afraid are you?

Let’s try this with the following questions:
What makes you so afraid or nervous about talking to people?
When did you start having such fear? What happened back then that possibly developed your fear of talking to people?
What are the other elements you remember from that time, e.g. people, sounds, surroundings, etc?

If you are faced with the same fear over and over again, chances are your original fear diminishes, because somehow, you are ready and prepared to tackle it.

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Cat always got your tongue?

What makes you so afraid or nervous about talking to people?

When did you start having such fear? What happened back then that possibly developed your fear of talking to people?

What are the other elements you remember from that time, e.g. people, sounds, surroundings, etc?

When was the last time you felt the same fear or been in a situation very similar to the first one when your fear was triggered? What did you do? Who were you with? How did it end?

Three Pillars of Communication
There are three (3) main pillars of communication every person needs to take to heart. These are non-verbal communication, conversation skills, and assertiveness.
Non-verbal Communication
Ever heard the saying, “Words are wind?”

We may say things that we don’t really mean. Words can be easily used to lie, control, and manipulate. They

Non-verbal signs, instinctual gestures, and body language, on the other hand, are just as powerful, or maybe even more. Words can be diverted from their true meaning, but non-verbal gestures are difficult to fake. Oftentimes, they speak more honestly than what the mouth says and therefore are more effective in putting messages across to people. To be a better conversationalist, you should watch out for hand gestures, eye contact, and facial expressions, and learn to divulge their meanings