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we all deserve untold sympathy for our struggles. We are trying to do something enormously difficult without the bare minimum of support necessary.
Bonbon Garzonhar citeretfor 2 år siden
This – rather than a vow never to have sex with another human again – should be the relevant test for getting married.
Bonbon Garzonhar citeretfor 2 år siden
One is ready to get married when two very difficult things are in place: one is ready to believe in one’s partner’s genuine capacity to separate love and sex. And at the same time, one is ready to believe in one’s partner’s stubborn inability to keep love and sex apart.
Bonbon Garzonhar citeretfor 2 år siden
They should above all never try to persuade their partner that it isn’t right to be jealous or that jealousy is unnatural, ‘bad’ or a bourgeois construct.
Bonbon Garzonhar citeretfor 2 år siden
The adulterer has to be ready to honour and forgive the partner’s extreme capacity for jealousy, and so must, as far as is possible, resist the urge to have sex with other people,
Bonbon Garzonhar citeretfor 2 år siden
Many things about us make little sense – and yet have to be respected.
Bonbon Garzonhar citeretfor 2 år siden
Someone is properly ready for marriage when they are ready to behave maturely around betraying and being betrayed.
Bonbon Garzonhar citeretfor 2 år siden
It’s just a bit of fun
Bonbon Garzonhar citeretfor 2 år siden
sex doesn’t have to be part of love. It can be quick and meaningless,
Bonbon Garzonhar citeretfor 2 år siden
‘Whenever I have the strength in me to do so, I will imitate those who once loved me and take care of my partner as these figures cared for me. The task isn’t an unfair chore or a departure from the true nature of love. It is the only kind of love really worthy of that exalted word.’