BDSM Basics for Beginners – A Guide for Dominants and Submissives Starting to Explore the Lifestyle

When appropriate, they are only to speak when spoken to.

A great way is to make a list of things you want to do, may want to try, and absolutely will not do.
This is called a Hard limits list.

A huge part is one partner (in this case you) being submissive and trusting their Dominant (in this case your husband) so completely and deeply, that you have an innate desire to yield and submit to his authority, in all kinds of situations, not just sexual.

With all of the structure, rules, and guidance that Padrone had built into our ever evolving relationship, I have never
felt
more safe, loved, protected, cared for, or happy in my life.
We have a completely open and honest, two way communication that is the very foundation of our BDSM life.
We practice more the M/s part of BDSM than the S&M, but it does govern every part of our lives.
I always wear my collar, everywhere I go, with or without Him.
I always follow the rules he has given me, and I know the type of answer he would give in situations that might come up in which I need to make a decision.

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I actually call my Padrone (Master) whenever I go anywhere.
If he is not at home and I need to go out, I call him before I leave, and when I reach wherever I am going.
I tell him how long I think I might be there, then call him again when I am leaving.
If he is at home, I call when I reach my destination, and call again to let Him know I am leaving and where else I may be going if not going directly home.
I have found this gives me a sense of peace, security, and love deep inside myself, as well as giving my Padrone an added sense of security and peace of mind in knowing his slave is well.
He implemented these measures because of my epilepsy, but also because He knows me so well, that he understands that any type of rule like this, that he puts in place, makes me feel that much more safe, secure, loved, and protected, especially if he is not with me.

I had as much contact with him as I could.
I could never get enough.
He was the one person that I felt I could just be myself.
I instinctively knew I could tell him anything and he would not judge me.
I completely opened up and told him about my entire life, past, present and future, wants, needs desires, hurts, dreams...
Everything.

Overall, a poly family can be a very loving, very fulf
illi
ng experience, as long as all parties stay honest and open with their feelings.

If you do not wear a collar at all times, outside the house especially, ask your Dominant to pick one for you that is acceptable to be seen in public places and could be mistaken as a piece of jewelry.

The roles have to be clearly defined and there must be complete honesty in everything that happens.