The Empowered Wife

’m afraid every day, but so what? I’m doing what I know I’m supposed to do, and it’s a thrill and an honor.

Knowing that someone respects and appreciates you is likely to help you feel more relaxed so you can be yourself. Feeling like you’re being picked on all the time can make anyone defensive

stop demanding or asking for sex at all

your husband lets you call all the shots just to keep the peace, he won’t seem very masculine to you—quite the opposite. If you’ve fallen into a mother/son dynamic outside of the bedroom, he’s going to seem downright unappealing

you can’t possibly be intimate with a guy you’re only tolerating. You have a lot of power in this situation, and a choice: either accept him just as he is—quirks and all—or reject him and end the relationship.

You learn to speak by speaking, to study by studying, to run by running, to work by working; in just the same way, you learn to love by loving

Seeing you satisfied from his efforts is a big part of what makes him feel successful as a husband.

you can’t give and receive at the same time. The more you’re doing things for a man, the less you’re in a position to receive

But if you don’t receive from him, then the cycle is broken. He doesn’t get to feel proud and you don’t get to feel taken care of, and so the intimacy is lost.

You don’t want to be your husband’s mother. You want him to find you irresistible to kiss and touch. It’s hard to get there when you’re telling him what to do with his money