Things I Wish I'd Known Before We Got Married

Research indicates that the average life span of the “in love” obsession is two years.

being in love is not a sufficient foundation on which to build a successful marriage.

The decision to get married will impact one’s life more deeply than almost any decision in life.

Learning how to disagree and not be disagreeable is one of the evidences of intellectual compatibility.

The passive person is far more likely than the aggressor to be “looking.” On the other hand, the passive person must allow the aggressive person to use her strengths and let her leap before it is too late. If you cannot conscientiously leap with her, then hold the rope while she does so. Together you will accomplish much in life, if you learn how to complement each other, rather than be competitors.

The fact that you have acknowledged the potential conflicts and discussed possible solutions will make it much easier for you to discover such solutions when the inevitable conflict arises.

but it requires the aggressor to be empathetic and understanding of the passive personality. He must take time to hear the concerns of the passive individual and even to realize the assets that they bring to the marriage.

The human psyche is a complex combination of heredity and environment.

Real life has to do with dealing with hard issues.

Most Dead Seas are open to questions and are willing to share more if the Babbling Brook will ask those questions.