Mindfulness

When things don't go well, don't spend the rest of the day going back over things you should or shouldn't have done. Instead, focus on what you've learnt from the situation that you can put to good use next time.

If you feel something pulling you away from your good intentions, “surf the urge”.

People with good self-esteem see mistakes and failures as opportunities to learn about themselves.

When you focus on doing just one small thing you don't feel like doing, you will start to feel more in control and more positive.

accept that you can't change what you did or didn't do. Know that you can influence what happens from now on

Instead of wallowing in the past, the best possible use of guilt is to experience it, accept what happened, learn from it, figure out what needs to be done and move on.

Remember, a mind in a state of flow is so engaged that there is no room for worrying thoughts.

Do not express your judgements about what should or should not make someone angry. This will only increase the persons' feelings of being misunderstood. The other person has his or her own perceptions and expectations. It is important to try to understand the anger from that person's point of view.

Anger happens when the expectations and beliefs a person has about a situation and the way things “should” be differ to what actually happens.

Be patient and kind to yourself; don't think of difficulties as failure, instead think of setbacks as part of the process of change – opportunities to learn, do better next time and build your confidence.