Being in Love

Even in religion and morality, everybody is trying to dominate, to show the rest of the world that “I am the center of the world.”

dictators, are all childish. They are trying to achieve the same thing they experienced as children; they want to be the center of the whole existence.

They are not dependent on the child, the child is dependent on them. But the mind of the child interprets this as if he is the center of the whole world, as if the whole world exists just for him.

the ignorant mind of the child interprets this dependence as if he is the center of the whole world.

When you learn something, it means something comes from the outside; it is not an inner growth. And love has to be your inner growth if it is to be authentic and real.
Love is not a learning but a growth. What is needed on your part is not to learn the ways of love but to unlearn the ways of un-love. The hindrances have to be removed, the obstacles have to be destroyed—then love is your natural, spontaneous being.

A grown-up person is one who can be with himself happily. His aloneness is not loneliness, his solitariness is solitude, it is meditative.

A grown-up person is one who needs no parents. A grown-up person is one who needs nobody to cling to or lean upon.

That’s how love grows. Give, and don’t wait to see how much you can grab. Yes, it comes, it comes a thousandfold, but it comes naturally. It comes on its own, there is no need to demand it. When you demand, it never comes. When you demand, you have killed it. So give. Start giving.

Trees bloom, it is not a business; the stars shine, it is not a business and you don’t have to pay for it and nobody demands anything from you.

if ever they give, they give only to get, and they are almost businesslike. It is a bargain.